At our Young Adult Connect Group we are still talking about the subject of dating. This last week I shared one of the most important keys to dating: STANDARDS. Or I should say, having the right standards. Here is what I mean. Before you start dating, you should be able to sit down with pad and paper and write out a list of standards that the person you will be dating will meet. Here is a list of some of the standards I think could be helpful.
- Honesty – if a person is on the shady side, they are a no go.
- Ladies, if a guy doesn’t open the door for you it may be a red flag. He might get a pass if you think he doesn’t know any better but opening the door is a sign that he has a high value of women.
- If a person has some questionable friends, that’s a red flag. Momma was right when she said, “You can tell alot about a person by the company they keep.” That is a biblical principle.
- If they come off as critical, controlling or jealous, slow down, red flags are everywhere. It is the indicator that they are not ready to date yet.
- THE ULTIMATE STANDARD for any follower of Christ is this: Don’t date anyone who does not know and love Jesus. 2 Corinthians 6:14 makes it clear that when we partner together is serious relationship with someone who does not follow Jesus, we are heading off path.
LAST NUGGET: Your standards are a based on your perception of what your worth is. If you believe that you have no worth then you will have no standards. If you believe you have low worth, you will have low standards. But if you realize that Christ gave His life for your, you will know that you have great value and will therefore have high standards or should I say Godly standards.
